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Reply by : email@example.com
11 Mar 2006 9:05:59 PM
A passage that always has encouraged me is Psa 37:3-7
Trust, Delight, Commit, Rest
Trust in the sovereign God to make the best match. There are many seemingly "good" choices out there but God knows & gives the "best"! Delight in the Lord. Give up all our burdens for He cares for us. He knows our desires and He will answer in due time. Commit ourselves to Him. Let Him be the Lord of our decisions and let Him have absolute control over our desires. Rest in the Lord. Enjoy the peace that passes all understanding. The Lord’s ways & thoughts are higher than ours. His time is the best.
Those who are single, enjoy the single status that you are in. It is there for a reason. Utilize the time greatly for the Lord until the Lord leads you to marriage.
"No one warns young people to follow Adam's example. He waited till God saw his need. Then God made Adam sleep, prepared for his mate, and brought her to him. We need more of this 'being asleep' in the will of God. Then we can receive what He brings us in His own time, if at all" – Jim Elliot
Great challenging words from Jim Elliot!
Reply by : lemuelraj
14 Mar 2006 4:58:58 AM
The answer is to both is yes...in a way. Let's look at the very first marriage. God made Adam, then Eve, brought them together and married them. Adam didn't need to go out searching for the perfect woman. God knew who would be best for him, so He brought her to him. And also in the Old Testament times it was very common for girls in their early teens to get married to a man whose parents had picked for her. In the New Testament, we are given guidelines for what to look for in a mate, but are not told specifically how to go about finding one. In a Jewish engagement (such as Jesus' mother Mary and her husband Joseph), the two families of the betrothed had to agree upon the union before an engagement occurred, and then this relationship could not be broken except for marriage or death; there was no "breaking up" once the commitment was made.
So how is one supposed to EVER get married then? The Bible offers some insight. I am not saying to stay completely away from the opposite sex until the "right one" comes falling through your roof. But we have to take a step back and separate ourselves from society's view of dating because God's ways are not the world's (2 Peter 2:20). Before getting involved in a relationship with someone, we should get to know the person first, not after making the commitment. Is this person a Christian, meaning has he or she been born again (John 3:3-8)? God tells us, as believers, not to become unequally yoked by marrying an unbeliever (2 Corinthians 6:14-15). This can weaken the relationship we have with Christ, and it can be compromising to our own standards or values.
the bible says that if you pray for something with pure intentions and a pure heart that you will recieve it. surely God wants you to have a good christian spouse. so if you seek for His will then the absolute best will happen for you