I am not your "Dearest" and Pls. do not assume that just because a female name appears on the forum a couple times,she becomes familiar for you to call her your 'dearest".
answer to your questions:
Pls read : 1 Corinthians ch.7/ 2,3.4&5
these verses are pretty much self-explanatory, even a child can understand.
"your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit"
And one of the charecterisitics of the FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT is SELF CONTROL.Gal.5/22
In other words, if you have the Holy spirit in you, you will follow His commands and leading and guiding in your life, and
if you have the Holy Spirit in you, you will have SELFCONTROL.
We all feel sorry for those couples who,live far from each other.
but let me point out that, that is against the will of God.
Once you are married you are supposed to stay together, you are supposed to be away from each other with MUTUAL CONSENT, only for prayer(personal Quiet time)because we may be tempted to act otherwise.
Now the question of Job situations arise?
Are we willing to live by faith as we always say?
At any cost we should be able to do the will Of God in our Life.
Marriage relatioship is the shadow of the relationship between Christ and the Church.
Just as there is no church without Christ so are the spouses. there is no husband without the wife or a wife without the husband. they are complementing each other.
Living apart itself may lead either of the couples to sinful temptations.
remember, husband has the right to the wifes body and vice-versa.
I think this issue is very clear now.
"we err because we do not know the scriptures"
so let us commit ourselves to study the word of God.
God bless all!