Dear Godly Mathew,
As you have addressed it to me directly let me give you the reply, the next post of mine 29 Apr 2007 07:40:58 ,replying to Br.varghese will give you the reply what I meant. Well we brethren have the tendency to bring out things out of the scriptures and wait for the opinion of the readers of the forum, there is no harm in it, if you cannot love your counterpart before marriage then you are decieving, marriage is not happening on a single day, as per the systems of india and any place of the world there is a sytem called engagement where you have got at least a couple of days to love your wife before marriage, there are several types of love , father-children love, husband wife love, teacher-students - love, politicians -voters love, employee-employers love, friends (boys-boys, boy-girls love) a boy and girl can be friend, as a boy and boy , or a girl and girl can be a friend, but when the friendship goes beyond and any new relationship forms in a teenage when the youngsters are in a fantasy world, they choose thier own decision which several times leads to problems, when the parents have made you grow up to an age of getting married , they have more burden of getting the children married at the appropriate place, one of the dear brethren wrote about Samson, if we read down the chapter there is a querry from the parents and the adamant behavior of Samson was mentioned there and later we all are aware what happened to Samsons life.
Now we have brethren who have the tendency to do thier own will and seek opinion form the forum readers if it is right or wrong, dear brother , if any one loves any opposite sex at the age as per the laws of the land , let them first inform thier parents who have made you and made you teach, grow in a form that you are worthy to get married and give glory to God for keeping us intact and sound , and make it arranged and let the parents take the decision as per the will of God Almighty.
Yours in Christ