In addition to the things that bro babugeorge correctly pointed out that have gone wrong among us brethren, let me add one more: we have lost love for the Lord and FOR ONE ANOTHER. I cannot judge how each individually love the Lord, but I can sense that we have no real love for the brethren. From this latter fact, one can indirectly make an good guess as to the former, namely love for the Lord.
- These days, you can be absent for a couple of weeks from church on Sundays and nobody will call you home to see if you are ok. And when you show up in church later, nobody will ask where you where for two weeks, becasue it is considered a violation of his/her privacy!! (And indeed there are some folks who would be very upset if an elder asked them about their whereabouts)
- If some kids have a problem, the parents will not tell anybody in church for prayers, since they fear people will use it againt their children, come wedding time. What heights we have fallen, if we cannot trust our own fellow believers with our personal issues?
- I knew of one instance where, the boy in a very spiritual brethren family fell under the influence of drugs. The Lord was merciful to the family and delivered the boy from his habits, however, the folks in the church were not that merciful. Even years later all this happened, some people in the church still refer to the boy as "the drug addict" and in passing reference to his parents as "the drug addicts parents"!!!
The epistle of John has a lot of black and white statements in it, sometimes hard to understand. But when John says in I John 4: 20: 20 "If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen? ", I feel we brethren have lost the love for the Lord.
How far we have fallen from the Lord who washed His disciples feet out of love!! Instead of washing one anothers feet in love, we destroy each other. May God instill His love among us.