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# 00179 :  homosexuality
Is it a sin for a person who has strong homosexual tendencies to get married.
Post by : jincy1  View Profile    since : 4 Jun 2007

Reply by : tomj   View Profile   Since : 4 Jun 2007 4:48:15 PM Close
Hi Jincy1,

The sin is not in getting married.

The sin is not in the 'strong homsexual tendencies'

The sin is in allowing ourselves to be yielded to 'such tendencies'.

God does not create a person with homosexual desires / tendencies. The Bible tells us that a person becomes a homosexual because of sin (Romans 1:24-27), and ultimately because of their own choice.

So, we need to deal with the root cause - sin. Salvation is the first step. Recognize that the victory over sin is impossible without the help of the Holy Spirit. With the help of the Holy Spirit, the person can be well on his/ her way to victory.

Even after salvation, the person might require support / help and teaching; as well as accountability. For this, the person must be willing to recognize his/ her God-ordained gender responsibilities by submitting to God.

To be practical, the person would be better off discussing the issues face to face with a competent Christian in the area. Frankly, there are no 'cookie cutter' answers that can be offered over the internet forum that could be of much value in matters such as these.


Tom J

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Reply by : jincy1   View Profile   Since : 5 Jun 2007 9:37:25 AM Close
Ok let me rephrase.A person has been a homosexual for almost 15 years.Later the person gets married due to family pressure and aslso thinks that once she gets married everything will be ok and she can lead a normal life.But the truth is she cant.Isnt she cheating herself and her husband.Moreover she hasnt discussed this issue with her husband before getting married although they claim that it is a love marriageisnt this lying and cheating.Dont you think that this person would have been better off without getting married.Is marriage the answer for such issues.
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Reply by : brethren   View Profile   Since : 5 Jun 2007 10:12:55 AM Close
Jincy: You know the answer to your own question and you know what the bible say about this issue also. then why bring this subject?
If this is your friend, then you have the responsibility to talk to this person, If this person is not yet married, then you also have the responsibility to tell the Husband about this situation. Otherwise you are guilty on this matter for not telling the truth and ruining a persons life and even the family's life...
So the burden is on YOU.
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Reply by : jincy1   View Profile   Since : 5 Jun 2007 12:55:25 PM Close
My question is, is marriage advisable for a person when one knows for sure that she cant lead a normal life.The problem is this person is already married.She did not tell him at the time of marriage.Now he knows.But the problem is he's not willing to let go of her and she too wants to remain in that mariage for the sake of society.End of the day both are leading very unhappy lives.Isnt it better for them to seperate ways.Can that be advised?
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Reply by : tomj   View Profile   Since : 5 Jun 2007 1:31:51 PM Close
Dear ‘jincy1’,

Thank you for the clarifications. I believe they are married now. This is what I understood. But I will hold off my comments until I get your answer confirming the current status. Also, would you include in your answer their current (the girl in particular) spiritual condition as you see and as others who are not very close to her see? Do you have reasons to believe that she is truly saved? Does she regularly attend any church? If she does, what type – denomination or group? Please be very discreet while disclosing personal information. But it would be helpful to know which country this person is now.

None of this information is required to figure out the seriousness of the situation or what sin involved. But our goal should be to restore the one from sin and destruction of family life. Labeling something as sinful is easy as long as my children are not involved. I can be very callous and judgmental. But the purpose should always be restoration, even in this case or in a worse scenario.

My advice to you is to handle this as discreetly and honestly as you would if this were to be your own sister. No situation is beyond the realm of help from God and he can bring ‘beauty from the ashes’; and He has done it before and is able even now.


Tom J

(I just noticed your posting above. some of the questions are answered already. Could you answer the rest?)

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Reply by : brethren   View Profile   Since : 5 Jun 2007 1:59:44 PM Close
Get some help here...
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Reply by : joshuag94   View Profile   Since : 12 Apr 2008 9:30:00 PM Close
so this person is married twice? I dont think you can legally be married to two different people at the same time
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Reply by : aaman   View Profile   Since : 5 Sep 2008 1:53:48 PM Close
First of all, one should know that the concept of sex should not be magnified and should not be given over attention. Sex is a biological need of the body like hunger and thirst. It is a biological issue at physical level because, when the food is taken, a part of it is supplied to the reproductive system, by which, it gives signals in the form of sexual desire for the growth of human race on this earth. It is created by God for this purpose so that the souls come down to the earth through the bodies created by sexual union. Thus, sex is a factor involved in the divine mission, which functions in a circular way by bringing down the souls to the earth and taking them away from the earth.

Disease is another biological need for the body to disintegrate and liberate the soul for its journey to the upper world. This is the cycle of creation called as “karma chakra”, which involves of taking the souls to the upper world for treatment and bringing down the souls after treatment. Birth is a vehicle in one direction running with the petrol called sex. Death is the same vehicle running in reverse direction with the petrol called illness. Petrol is one and the same and therefore sex is a type of illness, which is in the divine service of God and should not be looked down or aversed. Sex is divine and its deity is “Manmadha” or “kama deva”, who is the son of Lord Narayana only. He is doing the divine duty following the path of Pravritti or justice. In the Gita, Lord said that He is kama, following justice (Dharmaaviruddhah...). There is no need of shy in feeling hungry, thirsty, sleepy, spitting, urination, excretion etc. which are just simple biological, universal and routine activities. Sex is also in the same list, about which you should not think so much.

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Reply by : valaad   View Profile   Since : 13 Sep 2008 11:35:57 AM Close
Dear aaman

What you have stated is Absurd and Blunder…!!!!

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Reply by : valaad   View Profile   Since : 13 Sep 2008 11:38:42 AM Close
Principle of utmost Good faith in Marriage

Uberrima fides is a Latin phrase meaning "utmost
good faith" (literally, "most abundant faith").

This means that all parties to a marriage
covenant must deal in good faith, making a full
declaration of all material facts in the marriage

Here what is material or immaterial, is a
question of fact.

In a proposal the special facts, upon which
harmful chance is to be computed, lie most
commonly in the knowledge of the proposed person
only: the opposite party trusts to his/her
representation, and proceeds upon confidence that
he/she does not keep back any circumstances in
his knowledge, to mislead the opposite party into
a belief that the circumstance does not exist.

The principle of Good faith forbids either party
by concealing what he/she privately knows, to
draw the other into a bargain from his/her
ignorance of that fact, and his/her believing the
contrary. By virtue of law you are duty-bound to
protect the interest of other party, and not to
do harm.

Breach of this principle will invalidate a
marriage in common law. The person who advises to
act against this principle commits the offence of
conspiracy, the instigator may designate as an
abettor of crime.

In India a marriage may be solemnized between two
persons, if the following substantial conditions
are fulfilled,

(a) Neither party has a spouse living;

(b) Neither party is in mental disorder;

(c) The male has completed the age of 21 years
and the female the age of 18 years;

(d) The parties are not within the degrees of
prohibited relationship;

The term ‘mental disorder’ can be stretched as
much as to include homosexuality; recent studies
show homosexuals have a substantially greater
risk of suffering from psychiatric problems than
do heterosexuals.

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Reply by : valaad   View Profile   Since : 13 Sep 2008 11:40:54 AM Close
Dear Jincy1

Indian Penal Code, 1860, Section 377. Reads as:
Unnatural offences
Whoever voluntarily has carnal intercourse
against the order of nature with any man, woman
or animal, shall be punished with 1[imprisonment
for life], or with imprisonment of either
description for term which may extend to ten
years, and shall also be liable to fine.

Dear friend if this is the case in common law,
how far it will be binding us, Christians.
Moreover marriage is not a treatment or medicine
for ‘mentally sick’, many times out of love and
affection people are so blind to think from
opposite party’s stand point. In my opinion, here
principle of utmost good faith binds u.

As far as concerned we Christians, I think no
church will entertain this sinful act in their

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Reply by : jmeasow   View Profile   Since : 23 Apr 2009 7:19:02 PM Close
The whole idea of sex is introduced to link the chain of generations. Same as humans, God has designed animals and birds too to have sex to support the continuation of their generation.

Any other method of sex, homosexual or lesbian or masturbation or anal, which can never lead to fill the generation links, are strictly prohibited by God and is highly punished.

The destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah, stands as a solid proof for past thousands of years, in front of our eyes.

"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life."

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Reply by : svarg   View Profile   Since : 1 Aug 2012 6:51:22 PM Close

homosexuality is a sin

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Reply by : svarg   View Profile   Since : 6 Aug 2012 5:25:03 PM Close

God punished the people of Sodom and Gamora for their homosexual behaviour.

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